Yeah, Ladies, Men Are in Charge. God Said So, but That’s Not the End of the Story, Men.

chain of commandSubmission is not a very popular topic with people — especially when it is in reference to them. Growing up, there is nothing more annoying than a sibling trying to tell us what to do. When we come of age, we resent being under the rule of our parents. Some can’t even hold down a good job, because they can’t handle submitting to higher authority. Women in particular are never exactly what you’d call excited to hear about submission when it pertains to men. All in all, there are chains of command everywhere in society. Some are good. Some are bad. Some are effective while others are dysfunctional. However, out of all the chains of command in the world there is one set in order by God that it would behoove us to respect. This brings us to our key text coming out of I Corinthians 11:3 (KJV). The word of the Lord reads: 

But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

At this point in the scriptures, the apostle Paul is writing a letter to the church at Corinth. In his correspondence, he informs readers of the power order set in place by God for man. To put it bluntly, the order is as follows: God the Father, God the Son, Men, Women, and though it is not explicitly stated here, obviously children follow after their parents. Yes, ladies, you read correctly. Men are given leadership over women. Yes, you are supposed to submit. No, it’s not some political thing. It’s a Bible thing. This is why it is so important to choose a God-fearing man if you decide to date and/or marry. However, don’t get too excited, men. You are not just free to do whatever you want. You are not supposed to rule as a tyrant in your home as a father and husband or in the church as a leader. The problems start when this chain of command is broken. When a man — whether in his role as a church leader, father, or husband —  is not seeking after God and submitting to God’s will, this is when you start to see:
Dysfunctional churches — Attitude reflects leaderships. A church can’t be focused on serving God if the pastor is focused on womanizing, chasing money, or other fleshly desires.
Faltering marriages — How can a woman willingly follow after a man who is not leading her in Christ but leading her to disaster?
Unruly children — There is no need in wondering why your children are out of control when they are just following their leader. The man as the spiritual shepherd sets the tone of his flock.
Clearly, God has His reasons for giving the world order. Even Jesus is under submission to God the Father, and if our Lord and Savior can do it, surely we can do it.
Have a blessed day!

Ayvaunn Penn is an award-winning writer and the author of Ephemeral Moments: a collection of poetry and short stories available soon on To receive Ayvaunn’s daily devotionals by email, click here. Click to follow her on Facebook and Twitter. To have your original poetry featured on Your Black Poets, click here.


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