by Ayvaunn Penn, Your Black World
The full title of this feisty book is Is Marriage for White People? How the African-American Marriage Decline Affects Everyone. Interracial relationships and marriages are an emotional roller coaster for the entire world. Bring it up in conversation and errbody and they mama start getting fidgety. So, we can only imagine what the reactions are to this book by Stanford law professor Ralph Richards Banks.
BET reports that “the book makes the case that the lack of Blacks getting married in America is a negative in society, and how things could get better if more people would marry outside their race.” BET also says that according to various reviews of this text, the general perception is that “Banks’ thesis appears to be that Black women, who tend to be disproportionately single in the United States, should simply marry interracially rather than wait for Black men who are more often in trouble with the law and undereducated.”
Those are some strong words that do not sound to good to a lot of people. First, plenty of black men have taken care of marrying outside of the black race. Second, it appears that the majority of men of other cultures maintain a certain level of dedication to women of their own heritage. Certainly, there are those men of other races who marry outside of their race. Largely, however, men of other cultures remain loyal to and wed women of their own culture. How then are black women going to get a man outside of their race? That is a challenge that still needs to be overcome — if it can ever be overcome. Lastly, it is probably safe to say that black men do not like being referred to as largely criminal and uneducated. The only funny thing is that for all the things people do not like about this book, the controversy will likely make it sell through the roof.
Ayvaunn Penn is a spoken word artist and an award winning writer completing her degree in English and philosophy. For more of her witty-word works click here. To have your original poetry featured by Ms. Penn on Your Black Poets, click here.